I know it might not be nice to talk about a matter where you aren’t a partner or a major participator, but here I just wanna talk about my feelings regarding this subject…so, I won’t mention anything that may refer to the identity of the actors of this lovely story …
They are a nice couple of friends whom I care about and appreciate very much…
I knew him from our first year in the faculty and our relation continued for the whole of the four years and I haven’t realized even for once his feelings towards her, really he was a great actor…he spoke to her occasionally, and I realized recently that he was creating those occasions to talk to her …
I knew her in the second year and we weren’t close until our forth year in the lovely FCI… but I knew well what she used to think about him…she described him as rough, not gentleman – actually, all girls had the same mind about him ..But as I was known to think and almost concentrate my evaluation on mind and soul, I neglected this feeling about him, but I had it as all other girls, but I always knew that I’m special to him so he always tried not to annoy me like he did with the others , ”special” here means a friend, please don’t misunderstand my words- until the beginning of the forth year when he began to change his overall attitude in life and he began to treat girls more gently …
Before Ramadan this year, he surprised her by claiming that he loves her and he always loved her for the past three years, it was really a surprise for her… she doesn’t like him, what shall she tell him, how she shall reject his request politely!!!… She tried plan ‘A’ which all girls try in such a situation …when she didn’t like the guy she try to tell him “let’s continue to be friends… I don’t think it will work that way”…
He told her “It took me three years to make a decision, I will let you think and take your time”… from that moment and going, he did his best to satisfy her, hopefully he may attract her… really he was so persistent… he did his best really…
There are some things I appreciated the most about her: her insistence on keeping him not hurt … trying to encourage him to study more and promote … being honest with herself and with him…never insulting him … - those things many girls insist on, but actually I’m now comparing her reaction with the awful reaction of one other friend when she wanted to reject a guy offered her unconditional love and caring -…
What really I can’t express now by the few words I can write is their noble feelings and respectful relation during the period while she is still insisting on her thought that he is not suitable…. Actually I advised her many times to think about it and trying the other scenario, as long as he is respectful and he will propose to her once she accepts his request…all this time I’m noticing their actions and I’m confident about the relation’s success if Allah will… he is so suitable … they are very compatible and their characteristics and behavior may generate a very nice harmony together …even their facial features are similar…- when two persons are soul mated or they are in love, even if they aren’t naturally similar in the facial features to each other, after meeting each other, their matched souls come up to their faces so that the viewer can be misleaded and see as if they were facially similar - …I was hoping from all of my heart that she accepts, I liked seeing them together… but I hadn’t smelt the roses’ smell yet !!! so I decided not to talk to any of them about my notes and my hopes for this relation so as not to interfere in their issues and not to pressure on them
Then, she began to complain that he began to smother her and he is blaming her for not realizing his dreams and for making it going wrong by her refusal… I began to worry about her so much… I trust him the most and I’m confident about his manners…but I was really sorry for him, he might have been overloaded by his feelings, or he might have been impatient… till that moment he wasn’t speaking to me about the matter… he knew well that she told me about his love.. But we – He and I- didn’t discuss it together… I decided to try to make him speak about it to know what is going on with him... and to offer help as I saw her became miserable and she began to consider his words which he said while he was angry and resenting her… she began to blame herself for his low marks, for his upset… and this wasn’t right at all, and thanks Allah, I succeeded in initiating a conversation with him concerning what he wants really… it was really wonderful and I wasn’t worried anymore about any of them … I decided to : first, try to relief her and convincing her that she is not to be blamed about anything as she was so honest with him and she hadn’t misleaded , second, to try to convince her more about thinking of it by telling her my notes and trying to make some comparisons about their characteristics and how this couple will look like if they make it… then we took a break of talking about the matter due to being busy with our mid-terms…
To Be Continued...
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